I never thought I would hear the words that I had been diagnosed with melanoma, the deadliest form of skin cancer. And I admit, the first thing I did was cry. And then, I felt really sorry for myself. It took some time but then I realized that as a wife and a mother, I had to be strong.
But it is difficult to be strong when one feels incredibly vulnerable. My diagnosis was the first time I confronted my own mortality. It was also the first time I think my children did as well.
“So, wait, you have cancer?” asked my 8-year-old daughter Riley.
“Yes, but we are going to cut it out!” I replied optimistically.
“Is there any chance you can die from the surgery?” asked my 9-year-old son Henry
“I’m absolutely not going to die,” I assured him. “I mean, eventually I will. But not from this surgery.” When I left my daughter’s bedroom I felt horrible for sharing with them that I was having a relatively minor surgery. There was no need for me to worry them.
But I was scared and, perhaps selfishly, really appreciated their deep concern. Over the next few months after the surgery, my daughters, Riley and Grace, took turns at putting a healing ointment on the scar on my back, which I couldn’t reach.
“Oh mom, it looks soooo much better today,” my darling Riley would say, providing such positive feedback.
My dermatologist, Dr. Elizabeth Hale, made the diagnosis early. I had the surgery January 2017, which included a 3-inch incision and about 25 stitches. The scar has healed, but is still quite visible. It is a reminder that early detection saves lives.
Part of my preventative care now means that I return to Dr. Hale every three to four months for full-body checks to make sure there’s nothing out of the ordinary. Each visit requires the strength to confront the scary possibility that she will find another malignant mole.
The reality is that I can prevent a truly devastating diagnosis now with frequent check-ups. The harder truth I’ve come to learn is that I could have prevented the cancer altogether.
“More people develop skin cancer because of tanning than develop lung cancer because of smoking,” Dr. Hale told me. Just think about that.
Well, I am doing more than just thinking about it. I’m telling my children that while skin cancer is the most common form of cancer, it is also the most preventable.
I grew up in San Antonio, Texas, where jumping in the pool wasn’t just leisurable, it was one of the only ways to cool off! With the temperature pushing 100 degrees in the summer, we spent hours in the pool, many times without sunscreen. In high school, I would visit a tanning salon during the winter. I confessed this history to Dr. Hale who told me, “People that indoor tan before the age of 35 years have a 75% increased chance of melanoma.”
I know I made some bad choices. Those attempts to get a tan likely led to my cancer. But by sharing this with my children and others, I hope that my story can help all of us learn some valuable lessons and have the strength to embrace prevention.
Skin Cancer Facts can be found at http://www.skincancer.org/skin-cancer-information/skin-cancer-facts
Thank you for finally sharing. I noticed something was different with you early last year, and was surprised at how you looked to Gayle as #metoo hit CBS strong. I also noticed that you were sharing more pictures of yourself with your children. 25 stitches is a very large scar. Thank you for telling us. I hope it brings you strength. Your real fans knew something was wrong, but didn’t know what You sharing your personal story WILL SAVE LIFES ❤️ Not only are you beautiful and very fit, you are an excellent journalist. I have been a fan of CBS this Morning since Day one! You are a role model for me and many other they women and girls. ( And I was born in the 60’s). Thanks again.
Thank you from the family of
Thank you for sharing your story. I too have had the scary diagnosis of melanoma…3rd one 3 months ago. Thankfully early detection has only required removal. People just don’t see the seriousness of this cancer. And you sharing with others may impact a few ❤️